Filed under: Depressing,Family,Rants

Our kids are once again being bullied by the neighborhood kids that live next door. Our kids were outside playing on the snow hill, making snowballs (but NOT throwing them). Their two friends were there with them. Then the older asshole kids came along and proclaimed “SNOWBALL FIGHT” and began throwing snowballs at my kids and the other two. Lani got hit in the neck. It wouldn’t have been so bad if it were fresh snow, but this is melting snow and when you squish it into a ball, its like a rock. Lani has a red spot now on her neck. She came over immediately to the house and was crying and going on. I didn’t know what to do. I was in my lounge pants and t-shirt with only socks on and my big huge belly. I saw the older asshole kids hiding behind a house and yelled that I would be talking to their parents.

My kids refused to play outside after that, aware that the asshole kids were still around and could cause them problems. So I made them come inside as well as their friends. Then I started bawling because I feel so useless. I just don’t know what to do anymore to make my kids feel safe from these neighborhood bullies. These asshole children don’t have parents who are home all day. Their parents in fact hardly ever watch them. I never see them checking on their kids or calling them in for dinner. The ones that live right next to use get to spend all night outside. Sometimes they will pass by our living room window. They are out there playing and its midnight! There *is* a curfew here in Alaska but their parents don’t give a shit.

These hormones are another reason I keep crying, I know. But I called Matthew and told him and he acted like he wasn’t going to do anything about it. I want him to talk to the parents because I need him to be active in this parenting role. I am always the one who does EVERYTHING for these kids. I’m sick and tired of it too. He needs to contribute more. I help them with their homework. I make them breakfast, lunch and dinner. I am the one who goes on school field trips and teacher conferences. He never does any of that. Granted his hours at work keep him from doing some of these things, but I sometimes feel like I am the only one who gives a damn. I care that they are being tortured by these other children. It breaks my heart to see them cry. What else can I do but make these parents aware that their children are not as innocent as they believe? What is the next step after that one is taken?

Anyone have any advice? I’m all for advice. I don’t think I should be the one to march over there and tell the parents. Especially since I can’t stop myself from being so emotional. The tears just don’t want to stop falling this evening. I don’t understand it myself.

1. Mar
   29

   Terri Says:

   No, you shouldn’t be doing all the parenting. Yes, he works long hours, but his kids are his priority. I know they are. And you need help. The parents need to be talked to. Bullying is not okay. Ever. He needs to talk to them before it gets out of hand.

   We have a bully kid that comes to my neighbor’s house and she babysits him. He’s an ass! I’ve gone outside many a time and told him to stop acting like a jerk. He’ll try to talk back to me or mouth off but he sees my pissed look and we don’t see him around for a while. They just need to be stood up to. By someone. Preferably their parent! :whip:

   March 29th, 2007 at 5:37 pm
2. Mar
   31

   Laura Says:

   Call the police.If your kids are in danger,you can do so. Your kids should not have to be stuck inside because of some stupid kids. Talking to the parents wont work,believe me.Call the police when it happens,file a report and make sure to follow up on it.This at least will make the parents accountable for their kids. I hope you feel better,sweetie and things get better.

   March 31st, 2007 at 12:17 pm
3. Apr
   1

   Ciel Says:

   Well i definitely think you should talk to their parents first. Then at least you can say you’ve tried everything and then take the next step. Maybe you could bring your husband along that way they might me more impressed. The next step? That’s easy… call Jack Bauer! He’ll have your problem fixed within 24 hours. :hissyfit:

   I hope you will feel better and that your kids will feel safe and want to play outside again really soon!

   April 1st, 2007 at 8:11 am

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